“1. Set up the conversational premise so you, and the other person, have easy outs, if it is not a good match.
2. Don’t assume the conversation will last an hour. Rapidly signal what kind of conversation you are good at, if anything going overboard in the preferred direction, again to establish whether the proper conversational match is in place.
3. If you notice something you want to say, say it.
4. Be worthy of a good conversation…
…I would stress the basic point that most conversations are bad, so your proper goal is to make them worse (so they can end) rather than better.”
—Tyler Cowan, “How to have a good conversation.” Marginal Revolution. September 23, 2018.
One theory, if you cut down on conversations you don’t want, you’ll have more you do want. Another theory, you’ll just have fewer conversations, but the overall quality of your conversations will go up.
So, win/win?
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