The Big Idea Instead of asking "What's wrong with me?" ask "Where should I start today?" This guide helps you pick the best place to focus your energy so you can grow and feel better. Step 1: Look at Four Areas of Your Life Think about these four parts of yourself: Your Body How tense … Continue reading Finding Your Best Starting Point: A Simple Guide to Personal Growth
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Full of Feeling in Any Situation
"Things can be basically good, even when circumstances are difficult... ...The secret to all [to being open to our lived experience] is hiding in plain sight. Your feeling, both the capacity for feeling and whatever you feel at any moment in particular, is what makes extraordinary experiences like [being grateful in any situation] commonplace. And they are already … Continue reading Full of Feeling in Any Situation
Creating Safe Spaces for Emotions
"This is my job. I'm not here to make things better, to end the crying, or to distract them from missing their mommies. I'm not even there to soothe them any more than I'm there to 'good job' them: that is not my job. Becoming soothed is their job. Cheering for their own accomplishments is their job. My job … Continue reading Creating Safe Spaces for Emotions
Why Do We Talk to One Another?
Open Question: Why do we talk to one another? "...To varying degrees, there is an uncrossable chasm between you and everybody you care about.There are two ways you can interpret this. One is the depressing route: to believe that your friends are not really your friends and that you don’t really know them. That you … Continue reading Why Do We Talk to One Another?
The Feeling Wheel by The Gottman Institute
"Increase your emotional intelligence and awareness with this tool. You can investigate feelings related to what you’re feeling at the moment, or examine the feelings at the opposite end of the feeling to see how you might transform or alchemize your experience."-The Feeling Wheel
It’s Not About The Nail
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg I wanted to make sure I had this old chestnut bookmarked. It has been increasingly relevant, as of late.
Staying With Feelings — Meg-John Barker & Focusing — Eugene T. Gendlin
"Stay with the feeling, with interested curiosity, not trying to change it, or to force it to communicate: just being with it gently and curiously. Try to understand it from it's point of view. Notice any words, images, or metaphors that come to mind. Acknowledge everything that comes up, e.g., further feelings or lack of … Continue reading Staying With Feelings — Meg-John Barker & Focusing — Eugene T. Gendlin
Pity the Feeling
On top of Everest, in my mind,a dark cloud, lightning blasts, a hurricane of controversies, unwindbelow, nonsense sea, fish net casts.The Sherpa is fishing aboutprefers an understanding cartel.Procrustean commodities—easier without a heart, a totalitarian Tinkerbell.Feelings, the repugnant social Other,are the dream within the dream.Before we think, we must feel, brother,a mind | heart alone, cannot reign supreme.
The Uselessness of Discussion to Find Truth
"‘Every philosopher runs away when he or she hears say 'Let’s discuss this.' Discussion, they claimed ‘are fine for roundabout talks, but philosophy throws its dice on another table. The best one can say about discussions is that they take things no farther, since the participants never talk about the same thing.’" —Gilles Deleuze and … Continue reading The Uselessness of Discussion to Find Truth
Emotional Regimes
"In September 2017, a screenshot of a simple conversation went viral on the Russian-speaking segment of the internet. It showed the same phrase addressed to two conversational agents: the English-speaking Google Assistant, and the Russian-speaking Alisa, developed by the popular Russian search engine Yandex. The phrase was straightforward: ‘I feel sad.’ The responses to it, … Continue reading Emotional Regimes
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