Purpose To provide a structured self-diagnostic for romantic market positioning.Outputs: Quadrant (Value × Constraints) Fit score Best lever (Status / Constraint / Fit) Bias flags Confidence level Preamble Before answering, define your dating pool: Who are the people you realistically meet and date (geography, culture, community, orientation)? Keep this in mind as you answer. Section … Continue reading Dating Market Diagnostic Tool
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Brief Comments on Consensual Hostility
"Once consent becomes the only value by which an individual can assess sex to be good or bad and justify their assessment to their partner or anyone else, all that’s left of seduction is contract negotiation fueled by whatever mix of horniness and loneliness brought the two parties together. There’s an alternative. As Srinivasan herself … Continue reading Brief Comments on Consensual Hostility
Happy People Tend to Stay That Way
* “[X], were you satisfied with your life before you met [Y]?”* “[X], were you free from depression before you met [Y]?”* “[X], did you have a positive affect before you met [Y]?”Researchers have found that people who answered “yes” to questions such as these are significantly more likely to report being happy in their … Continue reading Happy People Tend to Stay That Way
Kinky Labor Supply and the Attention Tax — Kortina
"As an example, consider how this increased competition plays out in online dating platforms. On Tinder, the top 20% of men are competing for the top 78% of women. Why? It’s a matter of the breadth of selection. Offline, due to the constraints of physical space and time, any given woman would have a finite … Continue reading Kinky Labor Supply and the Attention Tax — Kortina
A Keltner List for Relationships
"Consider each question and answer truthfully with a simple yes or no response: Does your partner make you a better person, and do you do the same for them? Are you and your partner both comfortable with sharing feelings, relying on each other, being close, and able to avoid worrying about the other person leaving? … Continue reading A Keltner List for Relationships
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