“I once heard that “Eighty percent of what most children hear is no or some variation thereof (stop, quit, etc).” Children need parental attention. They require it for their very survival and it’s an important part of their socialization process, but most people get far more negative attention in childhood than positive.”-Doreen Traylor, “A Pragmatic Approach To Thorny People Problems.” WitnessToDestruction.com. Date not specified.
This illustrates the notion of “no response”. You do not pay attention to problem behaviors. You ignore them. You focus, instead, on what you want to see more of. This is operational conditioning 101. Read my summary of Don’t Shoot the Dog.by Karen Pryor. Better yet, read it yourself.