The Barstool Rule

“Folks, I’m a non participant in all forms of social media other than maintaining a mostly inactive LinkedIn account. Therefore, I’m unfamiliar with the condition of discourse out on the inter-webs. As an individual who’s spent a lot of time in bars and at card tables throughout North America, on those rare occasions that I post a comment, I do the following: before hitting ‘send,’ I read it out loud. If it sounds like something I’d be comfortable saying in any bar in America, I hit send. If not, I revise or delete. Quite frankly, I’ve read a lot on this thread and others since I’ve had the privilege of joining your little club that would have gotten someone knocked backward off their barstool, or otherwise corrected, if said out loud in the real world. You all are really smart people. If you just take a sec to use those big, beautiful brains of yours, a good portion of these ‘misunderstandings’ will likely be eliminated. Just my two cents.”

-Unattributed

Something I saw in a forum I frequent that I thought was great and worth remembering. Unattributed because the poster in question clearly isn’t looking to increase his or her online profile.

Zuihitsu: 2021-12

Technically, zuihitsu are longer reflections than what I tend to collect. But, the general idea is right. Here’s this month’s installment. If you want the complete set, please download the fortune file.

  1. Patience is also a form of action.–Auguste Rodin
  2. Do I need to insert myself into this conversation?
  3. The grass is always greener on the side that’s fertilized with bullshit.
  4. Be good. If you can’t be good, be careful.
  5. Quality is remembered over price.
  6. Only bet on unknown unknowns near the frontiers of human tenacity and creativity.
  7. Nothing by halves.
  8. Most people listen to the grass, awaiting news of the harvest.
  9. Break the cycle.
  10. Change your thoughts, change your life.
  11. Literatures over papers.
  12. Taste is complicated and no one is the same person all the time.
  13. Develop images for tomorrow.
  14. The question: does X affect Y? is always yes, and is thus useless.
  15. All human creatures are divided into two groups. There are pirates, and there are farmers. Farmers build fences and control territory. Pirates tear down fences and cross borders. There are good pirates and bad pirates, good farmers and bad farmers, but there are only pirates and farmers.
  16. Be regular and orderly in your everyday life so you can be violent and original in your work.
  17. Take ideas from one place and put them somewhere else and see what happens.
  18. Old narcissists are rarely happy.
  19. A bird cannot land only once on a great tree and claim to know it.
  20. Our methods of measuring resist precision.
  21. Make them choose or lose; don’t be plan B.
  22. Context is scarce. Bridge into larger, different contexts and see what new aspect can be seen.
  23. Demilitarize language.
  24. We all owe something to someone.
  25. State the problem. State what needs to happen. Offer to help.
  26. Always get the listing.
  27. No matter how dark it is, there’s always some light. No matter how much light there is, darkness is still nothing.
  28. Take hold of the future and the future will take hold of you.—Patrick Dixon
  29. Consciousness is written in the laws of nature.
  30. The real problem of humanity is the following: we have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and god-like technology.—E.O. Wilson
  31. Science, like art, is not a copy of nature but a re-creation of her.—Jacob Bronowski
  32. Stories form human beings. Be careful with your story.
  33. Work with small groups with similar concerns.
  34. Get a mentor; be a mentor.
  35. Death is the only horizon, with numberless ways to get there.
  36. Do the next right thing.
  37. Painful things are often what give substance and meaning to life.
  38. The rough stuff is just gravel on the road to where you are going.
  39. Disagreement is often a sign of rigor. When everyone agrees, something is probably missing.
  40. Pay attention to the outcasts.
  41. All happiness attracts the Fates’ anger. Great happiness attracts its opposite.
  42. Real systems, like the world, are not perfect: you must tolerate and manage some level of garbage.
  43. What intellectual provocations are you engaged with?
  44. What is your time horizon? Stop working on the status quo (horizon 1). Start designing innovations (horizon 2). Iterating on innovations to get us to that future world (horizon 3).
  45. Someone has to leave first.
  46. Embrace the glitch.
  47. Play with expectations.
  48. Love does not mandate forgiveness.
  49. What good is the oath that doesn’t cost anything?
  50. A true friend is to be treasured.
  51. No reward without risk.
  52. Compromise is an exercise in mastering your pride.
  53. Shift from ‘just in time’ to ‘just in case’.
  54. We’re part made by circumstance and part what we wish to be.
  55. The tree remembers, the ax forgets.
  56. The young are willing to try things those with more experience won’t ever consider.
  57. The functional is a much smaller domain of the possible.
  58. Whose work is it?
  59. The burden of labor can ease the burden of life.
  60. Find a form that accommodates the mess.—Sam Beckett
  61. Not everything is something.
  62. Five percent conspiracy; ninety-five percent is incompetence.
  63. Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence.
  64. Don’t settle for a synthetic substitute.
  65. With self-knowledge comes the risk of self-destruction.
  66. Things will change.
  67. Law is an abstraction, the imperfect map of justice.

Zuihitsu: 2021-11

Collecting these little ideas has become a major focus. Here’s this month’s installment.

1. Give the conversational ball back.
2. Stories from yourself and trusted people are almost the only kind of evidence that’s real.
3. The secret of life is to do something you care about.
4. Listening means willing to be changed. 
5. Brevity is achieved by selection, not compression.
6. Potential isn’t real; it’s a projection.
7. Once we’re thrown off our habitual paths, we think all is lost, but it’s only here that the new and the good begins.—Leo Tolstoy
8. Efficiency is fundamentally opposed to democracy and self-determination.
9. To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it.—G. K. Chesterton
10. All killer, no filler.
11. Centralization is quick, both feature and bug.
12. Behind every criticism is a wish.
13. Imagination can be sparked by a change in medium.
14. A basket of options is worth more than an option in a basket.
15. Culture cannot be separated from cult.
16. Good solutions still could have errors.
17. A new thought about what everyone sees is better than seeing something new.—Schopenhauer paraphrased
18. The sensible people are the first to leave.
19. Blaming people increases fear and decreases reporting of problems.—Six Sigma paraphrase
20. You either die a Guitar Hero or live long enough to become Fat Elvis.
21. Keep him nerdy, he won’t do you dirty.
22. Do it for love. Love is often only thing that can turn good enough into great.
23. Write five times more and divide the length by five.
24. Code, clubs and cults win arguments.
25. Before the elevator, the penthouse was for maids.
26. Don’t trust the map; trust the compass.
27. One man’s rancid garbage is another man’s Golden Corral buffet.
28. Remaking the world means you’re going to have to remake yourself.
29. Grind grit down to grease for the gears.
30. There are inevitably two kinds of slaves: the prisoners of addiction and the prisoners of envy.
31. Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement. For even the very wise cannot see all ends.—Gandalf in the Fellowship.
32. Those who act without regard to the moral and physical limits implicit in the human condition do not become as the gods but rather descend into an inhuman, bestial state.
33. Where there is no room for reflection, there is none either for justice or prudence.
34. Possess power, and you’ll be possessed by it.
35. Big ideas need crazy people, and then outgrow them.
36. Writing heightens consciousness.
37. Love without fear, restraint or obligation.
38. Invent full-time.
39. Completely open minds become dumps.
40. When choice trumps values, everything is for sale.
41. If you fit in, you’re replaceable.
42. No one owes you friendship or love. A relationship can stop at any time. So, cherish it while it lasts.
43. Radical change in a person is often them getting tired of faking it.
44. The true test of goodness is how we treat those who are at our mercy.
45. What you think is the point is only the beginning of sharpness.
46. Explore/exploit is another way to think about fox/hedgehog.
47. The longer it takes, the more the worst aspects are magnified.
48. A deep life is a good life. Concentration and craft are related.
49. There’s no need to repeat the truth.
50. Spend more on things keeping you off the ground, e.g., shoes and beds.
51. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.—Gerald G. Jampolsky
52. All of us have things we can’t do alone.
53. Some things can only be known through experience.
54. Friends are hard to earn, harder still to keep.
55. Live true.
56. Too much love is never good.
57. Loneliness is a darkness of the soul.
58. The more you say no to things that don’t matter, the more you can say yes to the things that do.
59. Maybe we can’t all change the world. Maybe it’s enough just to do good for the short time that we’re here.—Arcade Gannon
60. What is the value of illuminating the landscape from our darkened past?
61. A game is the voluntary attempt to overcome unnecessary obstacles.—Bernard Suits
62. How much of our behavior is governed by things that are, effectively, a social game?
63. There is nothing in the desert and no man needs nothing.—Prometheus quoting Lawrence or Arabia
64. Big things have small beginnings.
65. Never confuse who you are with what you do.
66. Master your inner dialogue.
67. Learn to live in the moment.
68. Find your real family, and clear out toxic people.
69. Crisis is opportunity; look for growth when it gets hard.
70. Be the sort of person who isn’t blandly likable and safe to know, but rather extracts a cost to be close to and then repays that cost with rare and complicated gifts of personality.

John Perry Barlow’s 25 Principles of Adult Behavior

1. Be patient. No matter what.
2. Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.
3. Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
4. Expand your sense of the possible.
5. Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
6. Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.
7. Tolerate ambiguity.
8. Laugh at yourself frequently.
9. Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
11. Give up blood sports.
12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.
13. Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.
18. Admit your errors freely and soon.
19. Become less suspicious of joy.
20. Understand humility.
21. Remember that love forgives everything.
22. Foster dignity.
23. Live memorably.
24. Love yourself.
25. Endure.

h/t OpenCulture.com