We're often told that being a good person means being open and welcoming to everyone. We hear phrases like "everyone belongs" and "we're all connected." These ideas are beautiful and true in an important way—every person has value and deserves to be treated with basic respect. But here's something that doesn't get talked about enough: … Continue reading When Kindness Needs Boundaries: Understanding Healthy Distance in Relationships
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The Campsite Rule
“Tell no lies; make no outsize promises; transmit no infections. Ideally, everyone would leave everyone in better shape than when they found them.” —Dan Savage quoted in Lila Shapiro, "The Age Gappers." The Cut. December 20, 2023.
The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
"If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? ... [Buddhist Enlightenment and the corresponding freedom from suffering, obviously]What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? ... [Not being preoccupied with accomplishments.]When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? ... [Any given month, … Continue reading The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
To Hug, or Not to Hug?
"It became easier to say what I meant when other people gave voice to my feelings. National Book Award finalist and Guggenheim Fellow Roxane Gay doesn’t like to be hugged. “So many people tried to hug me and seemed upset when I said no. I don’t like hugging strangers. I don’t even hug my friends,” … Continue reading To Hug, or Not to Hug?
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