Tag: etiquette

How To Celebrate In 2019: Modern Party Etiquette Rules

~ cafebedouin

“But at the same time, this is yet another outgrowth of how starved for connection millennials are: ‘You have to be participatory to have a community,’ Dr. Carbino says. ‘All of these events are ways to create a sense of community. Because you don’t have that anymore in a traditional sense you have to do it another way.’ And if you’re not getting married or having a baby, you have to get even more creative: an over-the-top party on your birthday, or register for your housewarming, a bash to celebrate your cat’s adoption day.”

—Amelia Harnish. “How to Celebrate in 2019.” Refinery 29. June 10, 2019.

A comprehensive, six-part etiquette guide for Millennials desperately trying to fight off middle-aged loneliness in our modern world with its fractured communities. Good luck, kids!

Trashing: The Dark Side of Sisterhood

~ cafebedouin

“This attack is accomplished by making you feel that your very existence is inimical to the Movement and that nothing can change this short of ceasing to exist. These feelings are reinforced when you are isolated from your friends as they become convinced that their association with-you is similarly inimical to the Movement and to themselves. Any support of you will taint them. Eventually all your colleagues join in a chorus of condemnation which cannot be silenced, and you are reduced to a mere parody of your previous self.”

—Jo Freeman. “Trashing: The Dark Side of Sisterhood.” Ms. April 1976.

The problem with identity politics, in a nutshell. If your politics is a bloodsport and treats people as representations to be “called out” rather than real people with all their complexity and flaws, then you probably aren’t going to have much of a “Movement”.