"Did I devote enough time to my family? Did I learn enough new things? Did I develop new friendships and deepen old ones?" —Jenny Anderson, "The only metric of success that really matters is the one we ignore." Quartz. March 12, 2019. Probably better to not ask the question at all than believe the answer … Continue reading Do the People You Care About Love You Back?
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Staying With Feelings — Meg-John Barker & Focusing — Eugene T. Gendlin
"Stay with the feeling, with interested curiosity, not trying to change it, or to force it to communicate: just being with it gently and curiously. Try to understand it from it's point of view. Notice any words, images, or metaphors that come to mind. Acknowledge everything that comes up, e.g., further feelings or lack of … Continue reading Staying With Feelings — Meg-John Barker & Focusing — Eugene T. Gendlin
The Shaggy, Sharp-Toothed Thing With Thin Skin
"'As a concept,' Wang writes, 'the schizophrenias encompass a range of psychotic disorders, and it is a genus that I choose to identify with as a woman whose diagnosis is unfamiliar to most — the shaggy, sharp-toothed thing, and not the wolf... ...'the liminal' as a space in which 'thin-skinned' individuals — those who 'have … Continue reading The Shaggy, Sharp-Toothed Thing With Thin Skin
The Legacy of the Original 9 in Tennis to U.S. Women’s Soccer World Cup Today
"While some sporting brands used International Women’s Day to launch their Women’s World Cup team kits, lawyers representing the world-champion U.S. team were on their way to a California courthouse to file a landmark lawsuit that would rock the sport."—Philip O'Connor, "U.S. women's fight for fairness puts soccer World Cup in focus." Reuters. March 9, … Continue reading The Legacy of the Original 9 in Tennis to U.S. Women’s Soccer World Cup Today
How to Turn Our Garden’s Bounty Into Community
"As someone who finds it hard—so so so hard—to ask for help, because it makes me feel vulnerable, weak, and in debt, which in turn has historically led to being abused, bartering is a safe exchange. Bartering equalizes exchange. There is no counting the change, because there is no change to give. Bartering involves consent; … Continue reading How to Turn Our Garden’s Bounty Into Community
The House Democrats’ “Rebuke” of Rep. Ilhan Omar is a Fraud For Many Reasons
It is, for instance, beyond dispute that what Omar is saying is true given that the very first bill passed by the U.S. Senate this year was one that allowed punishment for American citizens who boycott Israel, while U.S. citizens in 26 states are formally punished for boycotting this foreign nation, as we reported last month … Continue reading The House Democrats’ “Rebuke” of Rep. Ilhan Omar is a Fraud For Many Reasons
The Oppression of the Supermajority
"The defining political fact of our time is not polarization. It’s the inability of even large bipartisan majorities to get what [the public] wants... ...In our era, it is primarily Congress that prevents popular laws from being passed or getting serious consideration. (Holding an occasional hearing does not count as “doing something.”) Entire categories of … Continue reading The Oppression of the Supermajority
Trump and Brexit Proved This Book Prophetic — What Calamity Will Befall Us Next?
"Fifty years ago, society was organized according to the industrial model. People were passive recipients of information. It was a top-down system with limited choices or diversity. You could buy two or three different types of cars and get your information from two or three different television channels and newspapers. This system produced a relatively … Continue reading Trump and Brexit Proved This Book Prophetic — What Calamity Will Befall Us Next?
How the BBC Visual and Data Journalism Team Works With Graphics in R
"Over the past year, data journalists on the BBC Visual and Data Journalism team have fundamentally changed how they produce graphics for publication on the BBC News website. In this post, we explain how and why we have used R’s ggplot2 package to create production-ready charts, document our process and code and share what we … Continue reading How the BBC Visual and Data Journalism Team Works With Graphics in R
Hoodoos
...the hoodoo. There are certain people you meet in life who are like the locomotives that always used to blow up—people who, wherever they go, disaster always ensues. One of my main pieces of advice is: Stay away from hoodoos. Sometimes hoodoos are very affectionate and they like to hug you, and I always burn … Continue reading Hoodoos
The Attachment Theory of Relationships
"Touch is the most basic way of connecting with another human being. Taking your partner's hand when she is nervous or touching his shoulder in the middle of an argument can instantly defuse anxiety and anger. The world of therapy has been obsessed with maintaining boundaries in recent years. I say our problem is just … Continue reading The Attachment Theory of Relationships
What Hikikomori Is and What Isn’t [It]?
"Hikikomori is a coping strategy activated in response to the excessive pressure of social realization typical of modern individualistic societies."—Marco Crepaldi, "What Hikikomori Is and What Isn't?" hikikomoriitalia.it. Apparently, the hikikimori phenomena is spreading to other countries such as Italy and the United States.
Pazz & Jop: So, Are Women Here Yet? | Village Voice
"So maybe it’s time to pivot back to fanzine. Pivot to local underground newspaper. Pivot to supermarket circular. Pivot back to listservs and anonymous blogspots. Pivot to a publication for teenage girls that doesn’t die because it refused to be an app and a vehicle for selling things to an elusive and valuable market. Pivot … Continue reading Pazz & Jop: So, Are Women Here Yet? | Village Voice
Reading in the Age of Constant Distraction
"Loneliness is what the internet and social media claim to alleviate, though they often have the opposite effect. Communion can be hard to find, not because we aren’t occupying the same physical space but because we aren’t occupying the same mental plane: we don’t read the same news; we don’t even revel in the same … Continue reading Reading in the Age of Constant Distraction
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