Hear My No

“‘No’ is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you.”

-Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence, quoted in Mark Frauenfelder, “Protect yourself from violence.” Book Freak, No. 40. December 31, 2019.

“If you tell someone ten times that you don’t want to talk to him, you are talking to them—nine more times than you wanted to.”

—ibid.