Are My Friends Really My Friends? – The New York Times

“‘Your available social time is limited, and you can either spend it face to face or on the internet,” Dr. Dunbar said. If it’s spent with people who are ‘remote,’ whether geographically or just because they’re represented digitally, ‘you don’t have time to invest in new relationships where you are.’

People from our past that we no longer directly communicate with but who are active on social networks can ‘colonize valuable space in your mind, and you think about them instead of about your close friends,’ said Carlin Flora, the author of ‘Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are.'”

—Teddy Wayne, “Are My Friends Really My Friends?The New York Times. May 12, 2018.

Reminds me of 10 Types of Odd Friendships You’re a Probably Part Of, which suggests that social media isn’t the origin but rather amplifies an existing issue and adds complexity to it. Cardboard bridges don’t carry heavy loads.

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