“The battle for LGBTQ rights hasn’t only been fought on the streets of coastal cities; it has also taken place on the dirt roads, campuses, and in the homes of rural America. In this new short documentary—released 50 years after the Stonewall riots, which brought LGBTQ rights into the national consciousness—gay men living in central Tennessee, and their families, share stories of struggle and self-acceptance. We meet the retiree who spent his entire professional life in the closet, his devoted partner of 20 years, a pastor determined to overcome his own prejudices, and the pastor’s gay son, newly in love and just starting to come into his own.”
—Kate Kunath. “Show Me The Way.” Topic. June 2019.
“The daughters are to stay at home. The wife, more so. The dead are never accompanied to the cremation grounds by women. We aren’t allowed. Not in our custom.
And so, we went to the cremation grounds — Ma and her daughters, to cremate our father, her husband. I took Ma’s hand and guided her from our house. The priest shook his head in disapproval. The cousins, the men, looked on, grief-stricken, but now in shock that their aunt and their cousins, women all, were headed to the shamshan ghat, to give mukhagni, lighting the fire to the mouth of the deceased.”-Madhushree Ghosh, “At the Maacher Bazaar, Fish For Life.” Longreads.com. April 2019
There was a lot I recognized in this story. The elder daughter who would not eat fish because her parents ate so much of it in her childhood. Daughters breaking tradition and performing funeral rites. The love of Bengalis for bargaining.
But, otherwise, a piece that was বাংলা জীবন সত্য, true to Bengali life.