I once said, in a public argument about a book that advocated for divorce, that if I found my wife reading it we would have a conversation about it. My wife is a surgeon and the family breadwinner; the idea that I could control her is faintly comic to anyone who knows us. None of … Continue reading The Same Paper: On Love, Control & the Limits of the Outside View
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What Sufficient Explanations Hide
There's a moment, watching a documentary about a couple whose communication register is foreign to your own, when you reach for the obvious explanation. They talk a lot about feelings. They narrate their interior lives — what was the big moment of your day? — in a way nothing like the terse, decisive exchanges that … Continue reading What Sufficient Explanations Hide
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