"1) Don’t be chill when it comes to making friends. Tell people you like or respect or value that they’re great and you want to hang out with them. If they signal that they’re not interested, that’s fine — but don’t miss the opportunity to get to know someone wonderful just because you don’t want … Continue reading How to Make Friends as an Adult
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Thank You For Being A Friend
Obesity in America 2018: 7 charts that explain why it’s so easy to gain weight – Vox
"Sure, it’s possible to have a small, healthy meal at a restaurant. But researchers have found that people typically eat 20 to 40 percent more calories in restaurants compared with what they’d eat at home." —Eliza Barclay, Julia Belluz, and Javier Zarracina. "Obesity in America 2018: 7 charts that explain why it’s so easy to … Continue reading Obesity in America 2018: 7 charts that explain why it’s so easy to gain weight – Vox
Forty-Five Things I Learned in the Gulag
"30. I discovered that the world should be divided not into good and bad people but into cowards and non-cowards. Ninety-five percent of cowards are capable of the vilest things, lethal things, at the mildest threat... 44. I understood that moving from the condition of a prisoner to the condition of a free man is … Continue reading Forty-Five Things I Learned in the Gulag
Belief vs. Doubt
"Franzen thinks that there’s no way for a writer to do good work — to write something that can be called “consuming and extraordinarily moving” — without putting a fence around yourself so that you can control the input you encounter. So that you could have a thought that isn’t subject to pushback all the … Continue reading Belief vs. Doubt
Viv Albertine on Dating Again in Her 50s
"I had to retrain my eyes and brain to find older men attractive when I started dating again in my fifties. The last time I was single the men I was looking at were in their thirties and I still had that youthful image fixed in my head. It was depressing at first, choosing from … Continue reading Viv Albertine on Dating Again in Her 50s
Seymour Hersh’s “Reporter”
"'Reporter' demonstrates that Hersh has derived three simple lessons from that rule:The powerful prey mercilessly upon the powerless, up to and including mass murder.The powerful lie constantly about their predations.The natural instinct of the media is to let the powerful get away with it."—Jon Schwarz, "Seymour Hersh’s New Memoir Is a Fascinating, Flabbergasting Masterpiece." The … Continue reading Seymour Hersh’s “Reporter”
Frank Chimero · A Modest Guide to Productivity
"Dump your brain on to a sheet of paper—every single thing you could hope to do in the next 3 to 4 months. Then, look at your task list. Have the author sign each one. Did you write it, or was it fear, that nasty tyrant in your head? Cross off anything written out of … Continue reading Frank Chimero · A Modest Guide to Productivity
Real, Effective Apologies
"Real, Effective Apologies has three parts: (1) Acknowledge how your action affected the person; (2) say you're sorry; (3) describe what you're going to do to make it right or make sure it doesn't happen again. Don't excuse or explain." —Reddit, h/t Cool Tools/Recomendo.
Default Settings
"There are thousands of people who live their entire lives on the default settings, never realizing they can customize everything. Don’t settle for the default settings in life. Find your loves, your talents, your passions, and embrace them. Don’t hide behind other people’s decisions. Don’t let others tell you what you want. Design YOUR journey … Continue reading Default Settings
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