"Landmine people," said Pyrrha, and when she said it Nona's brows crossed in confusion, she said: "Some people were put into the universe to rig it to explode, then walk away ... I always fell for that." -Tamsyn Muir, "Nona the Ninth." New York: Tor Books, 2022. Another name to add to my ongoing series: Hoodoos, Sucking … Continue reading Landmine People
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DARVO
"DARVO is an acronym for "deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender". It refers to a reaction that alleged perpetrators of wrongdoing, particularly sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior.[1] Some researchers and advocates have indicated that it can be as a common manipulation strategy of psychological abusers.[2][3][4] An abuser (or alleged abuser) denies the … Continue reading DARVO
Identifying a Stupid Person
"...a stupid person causes damage to others while deriving no gain, or even possibly incurring losses. We invariably underestimate the number of stupid individuals in circulation as the probability that a certain person is stupid is independent of other characteristics or credentials (e.g., they can have a Ph.D. or be President). We (the non-stupid) are … Continue reading Identifying a Stupid Person
Some People Are Toxic, Avoid Them
"You can only work for people you like......Some people are toxic avoid them. This is a subtext [to working for people you like]. There was in the sixties a man named Fritz Perls who was a gestalt therapist. gestalt therapy derives from art history, it proposes you must understand the ‘whole’ before you can understand … Continue reading Some People Are Toxic, Avoid Them
Sucking Black Holes
"Avoid sucking black holes of negativity in your newsroom and your writing life. They will bring you down with them......"There will be some people in every newsroom who create a whirling vortex of negativity," she told her students."They spend their time and energy (and yours) complaining, criticizing, blaming and spitting bile. Avoid them at all … Continue reading Sucking Black Holes
Harbringers of Failure
"...there exist 'harbinger customers' who systematically purchase new products that fail (and are discontinued by retailers). This article extends this result in two ways. First, the findings document the existence of 'harbinger zip codes.' If households in these zip codes adopt a new product, this is a signal that the new product will fail. Second, … Continue reading Harbringers of Failure
Hoodoos
...the hoodoo. There are certain people you meet in life who are like the locomotives that always used to blow up—people who, wherever they go, disaster always ensues. One of my main pieces of advice is: Stay away from hoodoos. Sometimes hoodoos are very affectionate and they like to hug you, and I always burn … Continue reading Hoodoos
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