Be Conservative in What You Send, Liberal in What You Receive

A one-sheet on posture toward the people around you The principle, and its known failure Jon Postel wrote it for computers talking to each other: send strictly correct output, accept anything you can reasonably interpret. It let a fragile early internet work despite everyone's software being slightly wrong. Engineers later turned against it. Broken implementations … Continue reading Be Conservative in What You Send, Liberal in What You Receive

How to Give People Permission: A Practical Guide to Being the Kind of Presence That Lets Other People Loosen Up

Who this is for: Anyone who has stood at the edge of a room wishing it were warmer, livelier, more alive — and suspected they might be the one who could change it but didn't know how. Useful for parties and dinners, work offsites, group trips, neighborhoods, scenes, and the recurring events people build to … Continue reading How to Give People Permission: A Practical Guide to Being the Kind of Presence That Lets Other People Loosen Up