"True apologies are precious. They’re a secular process of remediation, drawing on moral intuitions shared by many religious traditions. They encourage membership in one’s moral community because they are fundamentally relational: They heal the bond between wrongdoer and wronged. By temporarily humbling the perpetrator and vindicating the victim, they pave the way for both sides to make up. Apologies … Continue reading The Corruption of Apology
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The Social Obscene
"In certain young people today...I notice what I find increasingly troubling: a cold-blooded grasping, a hunger to take and take and take, but never give; a massive sense of entitlement; an inability to show gratitude; an ease with dishonesty and pretension and selfishness that is couched in the language of self-care; an expectation always to … Continue reading The Social Obscene
So, You’ve Made a Mistake…
Acknowledge you've made a mistake to yourself.Think about the mistake. Why did it happen?Think about making the same mistake again in the future.Acknowledge the mistake, describe it and the damage it caused precisely, apologize to those impacted, suggest how it might be redressed, and then listen.Agree on a course of action to address the mistake, … Continue reading So, You’ve Made a Mistake…
Highlights of Kevin Kelly’s Unsolicited Advice
"* Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more...* The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested...* To make something good, just do it. To make something great, … Continue reading Highlights of Kevin Kelly’s Unsolicited Advice
Real, Effective Apologies
"Real, Effective Apologies has three parts: (1) Acknowledge how your action affected the person; (2) say you're sorry; (3) describe what you're going to do to make it right or make sure it doesn't happen again. Don't excuse or explain." —Reddit, h/t Cool Tools/Recomendo.
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