Purpose To provide a structured self-diagnostic for romantic market positioning.Outputs: Quadrant (Value × Constraints) Fit score Best lever (Status / Constraint / Fit) Bias flags Confidence level Preamble Before answering, define your dating pool: Who are the people you realistically meet and date (geography, culture, community, orientation)? Keep this in mind as you answer. Section … Continue reading Dating Market Diagnostic Tool
Finding a Primary Care Physician in the U.S.
This is a common question. Here are things to consider when selecting a new one. As a starting point, you can use Healthgrades.com to do an initial search for internists in your area. Under the About Me section for each doctor, you can find the information below. Good medical school? Use a ranking like U.S. … Continue reading Finding a Primary Care Physician in the U.S.
Zuihitsu, 2025-08
Technically, zuihitsu are longer reflections than what I tend to collect. But, the general idea is right. Here’s this month’s installment. If you want the complete set, please download the fortune file. No one wants to go to a party that seems to be winding down. To listen requires a voice. For what needs to be … Continue reading Zuihitsu, 2025-08
Finding Your Best Starting Point: A Simple Guide to Personal Growth
The Big Idea Instead of asking "What's wrong with me?" ask "Where should I start today?" This guide helps you pick the best place to focus your energy so you can grow and feel better. Step 1: Look at Four Areas of Your Life Think about these four parts of yourself: Your Body How tense … Continue reading Finding Your Best Starting Point: A Simple Guide to Personal Growth
A Level of Fuck You, A Quote from The Gambler (2014)
"Jim Bennett: I've been up two and a half million dollars. Frank: What you got on you? Jim Bennett: Nothing. Frank: What you put away? Jim Bennett: Nothing. Frank: You get up two and a half million dollars, any asshole in the world knows what to do: you get a house with a 25 year … Continue reading A Level of Fuck You, A Quote from The Gambler (2014)
A Simple Guide to Relationship Zones
What This Is About Ever wonder why some relationships feel good and others feel terrible? Or why the same person can be great in one place but awful in another? This guide helps you figure out what's going on. The Three Types of Relationships Think of relationships like a traffic light with three colors: Red … Continue reading A Simple Guide to Relationship Zones
Thinking Outside the Box
PurposeSometimes an argument is built on hidden rules or values. “Thinking outside the box” means stepping outside the way the argument is set up so you can see it from a new angle. This can help you find blind spots, unfair rules, or hidden trade-offs. Quick Example Them: “Everyone should eat lunch at the same … Continue reading Thinking Outside the Box
Zuihitsu, 2025-07
Technically, zuihitsu are longer reflections than what I tend to collect. But, the general idea is right. Here’s this month’s installment. If you want the complete set, please download the fortune file. Fruit reveals the root.You don't need to be in the same category to have equal value. If you cannot change it, it is not … Continue reading Zuihitsu, 2025-07
💞 Relationship Checklist
What this is:This is a simple tool to help you figure out whether a relationship feels healthy, respectful, and good for you. It could be about a friend, family member, coworker, or even someone you just met. Why it matters:Sometimes we get used to relationships that leave us feeling small, tired, or confused. This checklist … Continue reading 💞 Relationship Checklist
Saved Instructions for ChatGPT
Currently working on refining ChatGPT response style. Figured it would be good to archive and share, in case it is useful for anyone else. Also, I asked both Gemini and Claude to adapt for their use. Interestingly, Claude is the model that asked to make the Contrary Corner element optional to cut down on performative … Continue reading Saved Instructions for ChatGPT
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