"You are not a terrible person for wanting to break up with someone you love. You don’t need a reason to leave. Wanting to leave is enough. Leaving doesn’t mean you’re incapable of real love or that you’ll never love anyone else again. It doesn’t mean you’re morally bankrupt or psychologically demented or a nymphomaniac. … Continue reading Be Brave Enough To Break Your Own Heart
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33 Ways To Improve Your Life, Japanese Style by Ashley Ogawa Clarke
This article is exactly what it says on the tin. Example: Steel your sense of discipline For Mr Kodo Nishimura, a Buddhist monk, LGBTQIA+ activist and the author of This Monk Wears Heels, the key thing that he learnt growing up in Japan was self-discipline. “Especially when I was in training to become a monk, we … Continue reading 33 Ways To Improve Your Life, Japanese Style by Ashley Ogawa Clarke
Fifty Years of Travel Tips by Kevin Kelly
"There are two modes of travel; retreat or engage... ...The most significant criteria to use when selecting travel companions is: do they complain or not, even when complaints are justified? No complaining! Complaints are for the debriefing afterwards when travel is over... ...Your enjoyment of a trip will be inversely related to the weight of … Continue reading Fifty Years of Travel Tips by Kevin Kelly
A Few Eggs of Advice in These Trying Times
Hello, long-lost other blogger here. So, uh, it’s pretty bad out there! You are probably trying to figure out what the hell to do about it. Here are some words of advice, from wisdom gained through a couple decades in the trenches. Hope it helps. 1. Get your house in order. “Self-care” has become a … Continue reading A Few Eggs of Advice in These Trying Times
Stuff You Should Have Been Taught In College But Weren’t
As part of my job running Terraform Industries, I get to build an amazing team of super smart people, and that involves interviewing hundreds of people. Over time certain patterns have become obvious, but I remember when they weren’t obvious to me on the other side of the table! It has become clear to me … Continue reading Stuff You Should Have Been Taught In College But Weren’t
Triangle of Talent
From: Shaan Puri
The Ivy Lee Method
At the end of each work day, write down the six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Do not write down more than six tasks. Prioritize those six items in order of their true importance. When you arrive tomorrow, concentrate only on the first task. Work until the first task is finished before … Continue reading The Ivy Lee Method
Concept: A Day in Quarters
"...try thinking of each day as a set of four quarters: morning, midday, afternoon, evening. If you blow one quarter, you get back on track for the next quarter. Fail small, not big." —Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin
The ‘Alpha Male’ Myth, Debunked by Frans De Waal
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=inx2dMobzYs h/t The Daily Grail.
Zuihitsu, 2024-02
Technically, zuihitsu are longer reflections than what I tend to collect. But, the general idea is right. Here’s this month’s installment. If you want the complete set, please download the fortune file. The problem with throwing the tomato is it precludes using it for anything else. When someone says something you don't understand, ask them to … Continue reading Zuihitsu, 2024-02
Zuihitsu, 2024-01
Technically, zuihitsu are longer reflections than what I tend to collect. But, the general idea is right. Here’s this month’s installment. If you want the complete set, please download the fortune file. Ask a great question and the article will write itself. To govern is to choose.—Nigel Lawson Don't waste precious time trying to prove someone … Continue reading Zuihitsu, 2024-01
The Advertising Test
Text and Trauma
https://twitter.com/DrDoyleSays/status/1750247103048380723?s=20 If you live with a sociopath, it's better to have receipts. Otherwise, it's guaranteed they will make any old bullshit up, and crucially, believe it themselves.
The Campsite Rule
“Tell no lies; make no outsize promises; transmit no infections. Ideally, everyone would leave everyone in better shape than when they found them.” —Dan Savage quoted in Lila Shapiro, "The Age Gappers." The Cut. December 20, 2023.
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